Let’s get one thing straight: I have my truths about wellbeing. You have yours. And they might not always match up. That’s perfectly okay. In fact, it’s vital for real growth and self-care. I often say, “These are my truths,” because what feels like a guiding principle for me might simply be an opinion to you. And that’s precisely how it should be.
When I share my perspectives on wellbeing – whether it’s nutrition, exercise, mind fitness practices, or self-care rituals – they come from my own reality. They are, to me, truths that have been shaped by years of personal practice, professional work, observations, and, yes, plenty of trial and error. But I always make it clear: these are my truths. You’re free to see them as opinions, question them, test them out, and decide what fits you. In fact, you might find that one of my truths resonates so strongly that it becomes one of your truths. But that’s a personal journey, not something I can – or should – force onto you.
Why do I take this approach? Because having others try to force their opinions on you as if they were the ultimate truth, especially in the realm of wellbeing, truly sucks. It’s frustrating and limiting, and, most importantly, it shuts down the potential for real growth and self-discovery. It becomes less about genuine care and more about control, power, and ego. And that’s not how wellbeing should work. Wellbeing is personal and ever-changing, and you have the freedom to explore for yourself.
The Nature of Truth and Opinion in Wellbeing
A comforting certainty comes with declaring a belief as a truth in wellbeing. We crave clear guidelines: “This is the best diet for you,” “This exercise is the key to happiness,“ or “Meditation will solve all your stress.“ These statements give us a sense of order, something to hold onto in the often chaotic world of self-care. But the reality is that what feels solid and undeniable to one person can be fluid, even irrelevant, to another. This is where truth and opinion get murky.
A truth in wellbeing might feel definitive because it aligns perfectly with our experiences, bodies, and minds. For example, I have found that hypnosis is a powerful tool for change. That’s my truth, formed over years of practice and countless successes. But that idea might seem like nothing more than pseudoscience to someone else. Does that make their skepticism wrong? Not at all. It simply reflects that their experiences have led them to a different understanding of what works for their wellbeing.
This is why I always frame my wellbeing beliefs as my truths. They could be rooted in evidence, personal experience, or just feel right to me. They’re not universal facts. They’re not the “one true path“ to wellness. They’re my truths, and I’m sharing them to open up a space for exploration, not to convince you that they’re the ultimate answers.
Watch Out for Gurus Who Hard-Sell Their “Truths”
One thing to be cautious of in the world of wellbeing is the “gurus“ who hard-sell their truth as the only answer. You’ve probably seen them—they’re the ones who declare that their way is the only way. Whether it’s a strict diet, a specific workout routine, or a one-size-fits-all solution to mental health, they often position themselves as having unlocked the secret to life and health.
The problem with these hard-selling gurus is that they rarely leave room for your own discovery. They’re not interested in helping you find your truth but in selling you theirs. And often, it’s more about power, control, or financial gain than genuine wellbeing. These “gurus“ use persuasive language to make their approach seem like the only valid option, disregarding that wellbeing is deeply personal and what works for one person might not work for another.
Here’s the thing: If someone claims to have all the answers, be cautious. Wellbeing should be about learning, growth, and self-discovery, not rigid rules and being told what to do. Take a step back if an approach feels more like indoctrination than empowerment.
Genuine wellbeing isn’t about handing your agency to someone else’s “truth.” It’s about exploring ideas, practices, and approaches that resonate with you—things that you can test out, adapt, and make your own. Remember, no one can sell you your truth. That’s something you discover through your own experience, reflection, and learning.